Some people are satisfied with they way they are. They don’t see a need to change, or may they just think they’re OK the way they are.
Some will even go so far as to say, “This is the way I’ve always been. I can’t change.” Can’t usually means won’t.
If you really want to change your life, then you need to ask yourself several questions. They answers you find will be your first step to changing your life into the life you’ve always wanted.
1. What do I really want?
Most think they know what they want, but if they really did, wouldn’t they have it? What is it you really want?
Once you ask yourself this, then ask yourself why you want it. Knowing why you want to something is as important as knowing what you want. This is your first step to getting the life you want.
Don’t be afraid to dream big. Think really hard, and then write down these things you want. Don’t edit yourself.
2. What do I need to do to change?
Some of us may have huge obstacles we need to overcome. In fact, your obstacles may be so high that you have to overcome your obstacles before you can start working on your goals.
This can be anything from losing someone we love (grief), or having something happen to us we need to let go of. It’s up to you to decide how you will do this. Maybe you need counseling, or you just need to talk to someone about issues you have in your life.
Do you need to seek counseling? Do you have something in your life you need to let go of so that you can be happy? Do whatever it is you need to do to clear up any issues you may have in your life.
3. What motivates me?
What really motivates you? If your dream is to have a lot of money, then ask yourself why. There is certainly nothing wrong with having a lot of money. As a proponent of the book, “The Science of Getting Rich”, I believe that we can do more and help others more if we have money.
My point is really this: everything you want must have a real purpose. If you want more money, or anything else, because, for example, you were picked on as a kid, or you had a tough life growing up, having more money won’t make your life better.
What motivates you must have a purpose. A good purpose. If you want to use the money to help other disadvantaged kids, or even your family, then this is a good purpose.
Hollywood is proof that having money is simply not enough. Your life has to have meaning and purpose.
4. Am I willing to do what it takes to succeed?
Are you willing to invest the time and effort into what you want?
Having a dream isn’t enough. You have to be willing to take the steps necessary to get ahead. Sometimes this involves sacrifice. However, a little sacrifice is worth it if you get what you really want in life and stop settling for what you have.
5. What steps do I need to take?
Once you’ve made a decision on what you want, what will you do to get it? Outline your steps. Maybe there are a few things you don’t know. Maybe there are a few things you will have to learn. Once you know what you want, then you need to take those steps.